Whether you are a newlywed, or you have been married for a long time what is the first thing you think of when someone mentions the word ‘infidelity’. For most people, the first thing that will come to mind is a sexual affair. A marriage is meant to be built on trust. So what happens when money issues get in the way, temptation takes root, and trust is broken?
In this extract from author Art Rainer’s book The Marriage Challenge – A Finance Guide For Married Couples, he outlines six signs your spouse is guilty of financial infidelity.
For richer, for poorer
We fall in love, we get married and as we stand holding each other’s hands we not only declare our love to each other but we share our wedding vows ‘for richer, for poorer’. As Christians we know that God should come first in everything we say and do, and He should be at the core of all our decisions and situations.
Money matters are stressful, and temptation can afflict anyone of us to hide the truth from our spouse. Focus on the Family describes four factors that could contribute to infidelity in a marriage; financial separation (having a secret account), overspending, lack of planning, and when one spouse controls all the money.
It is unlikely that neither the husband nor the wife will intentionally lie to their loved one. But if we are not careful, before we know it, the lie and deceit can creep into our relationship.
6 Signs Your Spouse is Guilty of Financial Infidelity
Financial infidelity—lying about financial matters to your spouse. It is not as rare as we would all like to hope. According to recent reports, 20% of respondents admitted they had made purchases of $500 or more without their spouse knowing. Six percent confessed to having secret accounts.
God designed marriage as an all-in deal. Husband and wife are to pursue oneness in all areas of their marriage. Including their finances.
About Art Rainer
Art Rainer is the Vice President for Institutional Advancement at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. He holds a Doctor of Business Administration from Nova Southeastern University and an MBA from the University of Kentucky.
He writes widely about issues related to finance, wealth, and generosity, and is the author of The Money Challenge: 30 Days of Discovering God’s Design for You and Your Money. Art lives in Wake Forest, North Carolina with his wife, Sarah, and their three children..