Vision favourites Brett and Kate Ryan from Focus on the Family Australia joined Robbo and Becci on Rise & Shine to talk about how to choose your lifelong spouse.
Kate believes it’s a very important topic to discuss, because it’s so crucial to not just jump in. “Is love at first sight a real thing?” she says. “All those things that young couples say, like they knew straight away, or you don’t understand our love. It’s as though they’re the only ones that have ever been in love before. It makes me laugh. Having been married for 31 years we feel like we’ve seen so many things go before us, so when people say you don’t understand, I want to say I think you don’t understand!”
Brett suggests that we should all go into marriage with our eyes wide open. “Then when you get married, you have to start shutting [your eyes] down a little bit.”
Kate adds that you don’t want to address everything that comes towards you at once, because it’s an unfolding process across the years. “There are going to be little things that annoy you but pick your battles. Is the fact that they don’t put the lid on the toothpaste an actual issue?”
Brett and Kate agree that if you see a red flag beforehand and you don’t deal with it, it’s going to become a giant problem later on. There needs to be a lot of thought put into choosing your future partner. It’s a lifelong choice. A lot of couples see red flags before getting married and find themselves in a mess because they didn’t address it prior.