‘He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.’ Proverbs 13:20 NKJV
Not every friend is capable of going along with you where God wants to take you. Sometimes they don’t have the emotional capacity required. Other times their vision differs from yours. So how can you know when it’s time to separate?
Avoid relationships that leave you depleted. This calls for establishing clear boundaries for the relationship up front. You don’t have time to spend your life straightening out misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and injured egos. How far are you willing to go? How much are you inclined to invest? Bankrupting yourself emotionally and physically to fulfil someone else’s needs might sound noble, but it’s not. Emotionally and physically bankrupt people often waver in their commitment, two-time friends and partners and choose nervous breakdowns as their way out. And even when they don’t do this, they fail to reach their God-given destination in life because they’re dragging too much weight.
When you feel a relationship is not working, pause and take a look. View the situation objectively instead of emotionally, examining all the facets of it. Sometimes certain aspects of a relationship should be terminated, and other areas maintained. It’s possible to have relationships that work in one area but not in another. Compartmentalising will save many important relationships because it requires you to see them in sections. It’s possible to remove a section and still have a lot left to enjoy. Yes, it takes work and communication, but it’s often worth it. There may be common interests that need to be maintained, while others need to be cut out before all is cut off.
SoulFood: Acts 12–13, Matt 27:27–32, Ps 14, Pro 16:6–7
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